I have been talking with clients, friends and colleagues about how much I’ve been enjoying some of the new television shows because there are so many female characters I want to “know” populating some really good programs. It is exciting to view such female leadership on prime time television. Now, the cynic in me understands that women are holding more and more spending power so it follows that networks are catering to get those dollars. Still we’ve come a long way.
I am so annoyed by Kim Kardashian’s announcement that her marriage is over because young girls all over the world hold her up as an example, someone who’s life you should want to have. They don’t realize Kim’s life – at least what we have access to – is a carefully crafted infomercial for her products. Instead they now think marriage is nothing more than a huge party, big diamond rings and a 72-day commitment.
You know, I love the Occupy Wall Street movement. I love it because it removes leadership from the top and democratizes it to the people that are affected by it. And while doing that it forces everyone to take responsibility for governing at least a little.
Huma Abedin was most definitely victimized when her husband pushed the send button on his computer on multiple occasions. As was Hillary Clinton, Jenny Sanford, Silda Spitzer, Jackie or Marianne Gingrich, and many others when their husbands very publicly humiliated and betrayed them. As women we all sympathize with them. This is because most of us have felt the sting of betrayal or humiliation at some time, which can leave us spiraling down into a deep hole of victimization.
When women learn to step up as the leaders of their lives we are better able to switch from reacting to responding to life and work. We are better equipped to make more informed decisions and take responsibility for how things turn out. Acting as leaders we open up more options in our intimate relationships, concerning our finances and health, within our families and communities and of course, in our work and career.
Every one of us contributes to the shaping of our world. We make it – our world – every day through how we act and what we do. There are all sorts of ways we do this. We talk to people sharing our opinions, ideas and knowledge. We express opinions. We are emotional. We use our intellect. We build things like websites, gardens, highways or health care systems. We raise children, love our husband or partner and help our neighbors. We work, volunteer, vote, and build lives in cities and towns.
One of the most challenging things to convince a solopreneur is that they need input from others. Over the years I have learned that this is because the solopreneur is a lot like the Marlboro Man: a rugged individualist, riding western out on the range, sleeping wherever their day ends. While this may be the model that allowed him or her to take the risks to forge their path it can also be what brings them harm, either because they are too alone when there’s a threat or they are too limited in locating where the next verdant pasture may be. One option for reducing isolation and risk is forming an advisory board, which can be like having your own personal posse. The article that follows is a good primer if you are considering this option.
Small business owners often fall short of creating the successful businesses they desire by not having plans that fit their goals and systems for measuring their efforts as they institute them. For instance quite a few of my clients crank out the work they love but they hate stepping back and figuring out what they want their business to look like in 5, 10 or 20 years. Other clients have websites but think it is a waste of time to learn how social media can help them build their businesses.
I’m sitting here at my desk while outside there is another storm brewing. It is August but the skies are gray and the temperature is 58*. The weather here in the northeast like most of the country has been weird for months. But it’s more than the weather that’s different this summer.
I feel electrified by anxiety today. On the one hand this makes me feel very alive and energized. On the other hand I feel like jumping out a – figurative – window to end the frayed feeling just like Mel Brooks in the movie “High Anxiety.” I’ve done enough work on myself that I can finally make the choice to use the anxiety to create wonderful new things rather than be caught in the swirling spiral but this has not been an easy lesson to learn.
“My leadership coaching helps you identify who you are – both your strengths and vulnerabilities – and how to use them to go further than you ever thought possible in your career and life.”
Elizabeth C. Hechtman is passionate about people leading every aspect of their lives. For over 25 years she's collaborated with clients to be leaders in their families and relationships, at work, with friends, and with their finances, health and wellness.
Elizabeth's clients are c-suite professionals, entrepreneurs, middle managers, creative professionals, recent brides/grooms, stay-at-home parents, and singles. She lives in the Philadelphia suburbs.
She created this blog as a forum to disseminate the golden nuggets she learns everyday, bat around her views on leadership and and invite a rich dialogue about all of it.